STFU!!!

I told you guys this site is about is real is I can be with you all, so here is another tale out of my life...some of you may laugh, be mad, but all will learn something about either yourself or a friend. Well I have a friend that no matter what you are going through, she is either going through the same thing or is in a worse position than you are. Every time I talk to her I already know she is miserable and unhappy and is going to find a way to turn my misery about her. WTF!!!! At first this used to piss me off, I used to think "damn can I have a moment, can I share my problems and have a shoulder to cry on without this girl talking and making my feel like my problems are less of an issue!" hell no! This is who she is, she is that pessimist, sad, life sucks, and she will suck the life out of yours of you let her type person. I have even gone as far as avoiding her for a couple of months.

Then one day I sat back and looked at her life, not only look with my eyes, but also actually went deeper as to analyze her actions. She brings a lot of the misery on herself because of insecurities and dire want to be needed and loved. The problem is she does not love herself enough and looks for compassion and love in other people, mainly men. This is so wrong I tell any woman and I will tell any man this one bit of advice that took me a longtime to put into action my damn self----> Love yourself to the utmost, before expecting anyone else to love you! This does not mean be conceited or any of the obnoxious forms of self-love. This means understand that you are worthy of love and respect, understand that people out in the world that will try to bring you down to elevate themselves. Deep down inside these people really do have self-esteem issues and that is the only way the can feel good about themselves. You should not be a doormat to anyone.

Once I realized this about my friend, I knew now that her issues are and will be worse than mine will. As long as she has this mentality, I cannot help her. See we have to learn on our own what we think and feel about ourselves. I am sure you have met a beautiful person who thinks they are ugly and unwanted and we think what is wrong with this fool...well they have a negative self image and no matter what anyone tells them it will not stick. Please learn your self worth and stop allowing other people to minimize your person. Everyone in this world has a gift and beauty about them, but not everyone will take advantage and use it for good. Do not allow what the next person is doing have a negative influence on what you can do and learn to separate yourself from people that do not elevate you. Those people need to seek help themselves. So, that you are not curious I learned how to deal with my friend, while she complains about her issues I keep talking about mine and only after I am done do I acknowledge hers...hey I got something to say to damn it LOL, anyways I hope this helps all of you in some way.
Ms. Breezy

Love your way

Why do people still have a problem with interracial dating? Why should we date who others feel is correct for us? Why does another person's choice bother you so much? People should not have to conform to another person's opinions and thoughts on who you should be with. We do not have to categorize our relationship and feelings based on what some think are right. I feel like people are so quick to yell racism when a person of their racial background chooses to date outside the race and pass up those in the same race. Does it really matter to you that someone decided to do something different?
I believe that it should not matter what background a person has. If you are lucky enough to find someone that makes you feel good and that shows you unconditional love, then you should go for it. This life is hard enough without having to worry about what others think or feel, especially when it concerns our hearts and not theirs. Society needs to accommodate to a new mindset and that mindset is happiness. They have a problem with the fact that some are in interracial relationships, some are in homosexual relationships, and some are financially unequal with their partners. I do not agree with all the relationships I see out there, but it is not my job to tell you who and how to love.
If you have a problem with how someone lives and loves, take a moment and look at yourself. Think of why you are truly bothered by this fact, once we open our hearts completely, our mind will follow. I am not at all concerned with how other people love, because I am too busy waiting and hoping to have my own love story. I do not care if it makes people feel uneasy or upset, my happiness and emotions are what matters. If those people that are so worried about my love life, than they should and will see my happiness and enjoy it with me. Love your way and forget about the peanut gallery.

Perfect Love (as described by the Bible)

1 Corinthians 13
1If I speak in the tonguesa of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,b but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Lending a Hand

What happened to friends looking out for each other? What happened to humans having love for the life of another human being? It seems as the days go by people are opting more towards "doing their own thing" and only "doing me" mind frame. There is nothing bad about having love for yourself and making sure what you set out to be done. I have a problem with people who see someone in need and they are in a position to help, but they refuse to. I am definitely not saying put yourself in a messed up situation in order to help the next person, but why not lend a hand when we can.

There are situations in which the only thing the next person wants or needs is a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, or just a call saying you are there if they need you. I have always tried to be that friend that is available whenever a need presents itself. I have been taken advantage of and lost a few friendships, because some people embarrass themselves by their actions and then take it upon themselves to walk away. I do not like those instances and have said, "You know what forget everybody, I am not helping people anymore," but at the end of the day, I still do, because of how I am.

Do not allow certain circumstances to take away your good will. There will always be people who are unappreciative or take advantage, but that should not change you. If because of circumstances you change and stop being how you are, then you become one of the people you do not want to be. If we show people that despite their actions we are still kind hearted, then we win. Now I am not saying you should constantly allow that one person to do wrong and you keep doing right, because then they will just look at you as a weak person. I am saying yes minimize your loss, but continue being a great person with a good heart<------ that is what is lacking in this world.

Where is the love

There is so much disaster in this world, but there are people who fail to prepare themselves! Do people think that because they refuse to believe what can happen that will stop it from actually happening? What happened to people helping people? It seems like we have lost all faith in the human race. Some people refuse to donate to charities, because of certain charities misappropriating funds. I know that there are still some good people out there, so I suggest we research a little better who we are donating to instead of not donating. Picture yourself needing toothpaste, water, and other necessities... someone can help you and they do not. We need to come together as one and make a difference, because it can happen anywhere and at anytime. Disaster knows no barriers. I just pray that if it happens to you someone out there lends a helping hand.